This Sunday we take a break from the synoptic gospels and we spend one week in the book of John. The Wedding Feast at Cana is only recorded in the book of John and the story has always mystified me a bit. There have been a few remaining questions, none of which seem to have clear answers in scripture.
Like, who was it that was getting married? And why was Jesus so undecided about performing a miracle? His mother seemed to know who he was, as the Christ child and it's almost as if she were acting by divine inspiration.
I have often wondered why Jesus and his mother were guests at this particular wedding. Scripture doesn't seem to say if the couple getting married are important people, or just common town folk. The other part it doesn't tell us is whether or not the couple’s family was present at the wedding. Imagine how sad it is when no one in your family comes to your special celebration - a day that lives forever in your memories.
This reminds me of an advocacy effort worthy of noting. Ever since marriage equality, LGBTQ+ people have been planning weddings and honeymoons and finding ways to enjoy the same rights and privileges as the rest of the country. You may be surprised to learn that not all parents are ecstatic about their gay children getting married.
Actually, there are many couples who go through their special day without any family representation.
My friend and colleague Sara Cunningham started a nonprofit called Free Mom Hugs. I'm part of the group who gives out free hugs to queer youth when I can... and as a minister, I will also be part of the group who marries LGBTQ+ people. I hope to stand beside Sara someday as mutual support for a young couple choosing to spend life together.
Do you attend an affirming church? Or, maybe your church is a historical landmark? Maybe you could start a ministry in your town so LGBTQ+ have an affirming place to get married. How delightful it would be to have the honor of marrying some young couples. Just imagine? The Fellowship Hall could be filled with jars of wine, just waiting for the party! Your church kitchen could host the festivities and provide a warm and welcoming environment to a couple starting a new life together.
In a recent Facebook post, Sara said she would be a stand-in mom for any couple whose birth mother refused to come to the wedding if their child was marrying someone of the same sex. Yes, believe it or not, it really happens. Jesus and Mary showed great hospitality during the wedding feast. I wonder if they were attending on behalf of a non-affirming family... Now that’s radical hospitality! How will you be a stand-in community for LGBTQ+ couples in your town?
Grace and peace,
Vicar Dawn
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